Chevruta Instructions

  • To help one another access his/her best thinking about how to develop the middah/practice in question and how to model this behavior for others.
  • To hold one another accountable for progress toward self-determined goals
  • To inspire one another by hearing about each other’s practice

Getting ready
Schedule a regular time to meet with your Chevruta. Ideally this meeting will be mid-way between the Va’ad meetings. Please allot no less than one half-hour for the check-in.

Good Points/Letting Go 4 minutes total (2 minutes each way)
  • Choose someone to be the talker and someone to be the listener.
  • The talker starts by sharing one thing that is new and good since the last time they saw each other. This can be some, small positive thing like a visit from a friend or a good interaction with a teacher, student or friend. It does not necessarily have to do with the middah we are studying.
  • The talker than shares about any little upsets or distractions that might get in the way of being present for this chevruta session. The listener uses active listening skills to keep the other person talking without interrupting.
  • Switch roles and the other person now gets three minutes to speak.

Journal 5 minutes total
Take five minutes to write a new journal entry and/or review your journal entries from the past few weeks.

Presentation 20 minutes total (10 minutes each way)
  • Choose someone to present first.
  • Start by reviewing the practice goals you set at the last va’ad meeting and the practice check-list.
  • State at least one thing that is going well (a good point) with your practice
  • The presenter can then talk about any particular aspects of practice that s/he would like to help thinking about. This can be something from personal practice or modeling the middah for others. It can also include thoughts and questions about our readings.
  • Use the last two minutes of the time for the presenter to fill in the log. The log is a resource that will help summarize the session and provides accountability and a record of practice.

The Listener
The role of the listener is to act as a peer coach. A peer coach can use open, honest question to elicit the best thinking of the presenter without inserting judgment or advice. The presenter can ask for feedback at the end of his/her turn if s/he wants.

Switch roles and follow the same steps.